[ReBlog] An Open Letter To The Girl Who Let The Nice Guy Go

This was a very interesting read where the appreciation of a girl who loses a good guy because of all the wrong reasons.  Although in contrary, i don’t think it would be the same situation going for a good girl because she would be just taken advantage of in my opinion.

Overall this piece speaks out for all the nice guys that would do all the things in Bruno Mars’ “Grenade” would ever for that girl.  At that rate, it’s always nice to see a girl that can empathize for the nice guy who will always finish last. 

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About the Author Frishta Yaqubie

Frish is a Literature graduate student at CUNY Brooklyn College. She finds pleasure in doing everything society tells her not to. She is a bookworm who knows more of characters than she does her friends. Food is her favorite. Follow along with Instagram and Twitter @itsfrishh

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An Open Letter To The Girl Who Let The Nice Guy Go

by Frishta Yaqubie

Author’s Personal Note:

I’ve seen it happen way too many times: The nice guy loses the girl for being exactly who he is.

What’s even worse is if he’s really the nice guy, he’s going to lose her and say nothing about it. He’ll accept it as something she truly wants and give her his best wishes, as she walks away being everything he could ever want.

On behalf of all the nice guys out there, this is to the girl who walked out on the best thing that ever happened to her:


Dear Girl Who Walked Away,

It’s not like you weren’t aware of what you were getting yourself into. He told you he was nice. He trusted easily and gave you all he could when he could.

The nice guy believes in doing things right. He was there when you needed him to be, and he went out of his way to make sure you knew just how much you could mean to someone.

We live in a generation where we all have to wear masks and play parts to make it through the battlefield of dating in the 21st century. There is no such thing as giving it your all.

We like quotes on Facebook and post things on Instagram stating we want the masochist one day and the romantic the next. We play these games where being available can only happen sometimes, and playing hard-to-get must be our number one priority. Why?

I thought the ultimate goal was to eventually settle down. I mean, what is the point of dating if you have no desire for it to go anywhere? If a one-night stand is what you’re looking for, leave the good guys alone and toy within the levels you lay down.

Save yourself time and energy because the good guy isn’t going to make it easy to just walk away. The good guy cares, so he’ll get his explanation from you even though he knows it’ll be a load of bull.

Every girl says she likes the assh*le because he’s the challenge — the one she must break, train and force to be more than just a douchebag. Have you ever thought, however, maybe you were the girl in need of learning what it means to actually feel again?

You went through something, like we all do, and because of it you changed. It’s normal and heartbreak happens, but the next assh*le didn’t fix what the first one did; he kept it the same or made it worse. His priority was not you and couldn’t be you. So now you’re bitter and closed off from anything remotely more satisfying than a one-night stand.

I won’t deny that the assh*le is fun or that a good time isn’t promised with him, but when it’s all said and done, is it ever more than just a good time? Probably not.

In fact, the assh*le has a charm about him; it’s the charm you justify your pursuit with. You say, “There’s just something about him.” However, it’s probably the same quality that ended up hurting you in the past.

So you tried to push the nice guy away. When he wouldn’t go away, you pushed harder. Still, he didn’t give up and every time you pushed harder, he pulled you in even more.

He ignored your fears and forced you to grow; he fought for your passions when you were too busy writing them off. He forgot your wants and focused on everything you needed. Then you walked away because he was too nice.

He gave you too much of everything you wanted, and life got too easy. You wanted conflict and hardship as if everything else in life did not promise you an endless journey of just that. This is where you failed.

The nice guy has been hurt, too, he just chose to stay nice. He learned that different people were going to provide him different things in life. The nice guy also chose not to let any of it change who he was.

So, he let you walk away and he called it a day. Everyone always says there are plenty of fish in the sea, and he let you go knowing this, even though it hurt.

What you don’t know is that someone else is out there, and she won’t be as foolish you. When you realize all you really want is the nice guy who cares about you too much, it’s going to be too late. Some other girl will be able to see how great he is, and she won’t waste a minute.

So you lost your Ted Mosby and, I promise, to him you were Robin. The nice guys are there to give you a break, a light to something more than the games we identify our generation with.

He may have loved you too soon and it was too crazy and too much, but guys like Mosby don’t happen every day; they happen never. He got you the blue French horn, and he made you feel love when love was no longer a part of your vocabulary. You were now saying “I love you” again and remembering what it felt like.

He was the guy you were supposed to end up with, who makes everything change. I just wish you’d see it before another girl does because at the end of the day, everyone, including the nice guy you don’t deserve, is rooting only for you.

Sincerely, The Girl Who Was Too Late

[ReBlog][[OLD] 9 Romantic Partners You’ll Probably Have In Your Life - Johan Ng

Written by blogger Johan Ng this is his article called “9 Romantic Partners You’ll Probably Have In Your Life”, personally I have encountered myself in positions where I’ve been or have been with several of these partners. Recently actually what sparked my interest since some of these don’t really apply to me; is #7 since that is exactly how my last 3 years in college ended with since I am a fickle and picky person. Anyhow, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. P.S. sorry I haven’t posted in like several months I will post things that I feel are worth posting and I hope you enjoy reading them as I blog things down. Thanks,

JustJuwess.

9 Romantic Partners You’ll Probably Have in Your Life by Johan Ng

1. The puppy love. Your puppy love, or crush, is where those butterflies in the stomach, sweaty palms, and embarrassing stutters originate from. No. You’ve never even kissed, maybe held hands. If you’re lucky to be acquainted with this one, you’re both likely to be clueless about where to take this, except drown yourselves in the sea of oxytocin. It’s also where you start developing telepathy and mind reading skills.

2. The first love. Your first love, or serious relationship, may give you the prelude of how it’s like getting along with your partner’s parents, siblings, and pet dog. Chances are Scruffy hates you more than the family does. It shapes your early perspective on love and relationships. Usually, out of the entire list, this is the one you love (or loved) the most, doing stuff like, baking heart-shaped cookies, writing saccharine-sweet cards, and losing your mind for. It also includes your first heartbreak.

3. The second chance. You’ve matured. You’ve learnt a great deal from the past. You’re more independent and your finances are in place. Your gestures of love are more epic this time, like lighting up the entire garden with tea candles, fixing up a six-course dinner for two, and giving them the keys to your apartment. But if both your emotional and security needs aren’t quite in the same spot, soon the spark fizzes off and you fall out of it. In this case, if searching for that soul mate or the one is really important to you, you’ll rather have no one than be with the wrong one.

4. The fling. You’ve never intended for it to be a fling, but that’s what it is: you’re both physically attracted to one another; there’s chemistry brewing; your libido levels are escalating faster than you can rip each other’s clothes off. After lust and alcohol kicks in, it’s to your place or hers. But let’s be honest: putting the amazing sex aside, you wouldn’t want to be labelled as so-and-so’s one night stand, and neither do you want to label somebody with it. Really. Because you’ll eventually realize how living a life of dalliance can make one look. Everyone wants to feel desired, flattered, and special to someone — more than it is to be worthy of a one-nighter or two.

5. The casual date. You want to try developing feelings with them and see where that takes you. Much like a buffet spread, you aren’t sure whether you want the lobster bisque or sushi maki crab roll, hence, it’s wiser to open your options, and have a taste of everything — the best of everything. But that’s a fallacy we trick ourselves into. Buffets are fine, but with people, if you know for a fact that it’s just casual, you know at the back of your mind it probably isn’t going to go anywhere further than that. Even if you’re comfortable with this arrangement, you may find that your date may eventually switch gears, causing the frivolity to come to an end.

6. The bully. Abuse may also come in the form of mental or emotional. Yes. That counts as abuse. In this relationship, you often find yourself overpowered and suffocated. If you’re always guilt-trapped, again, alarm bells. How you react to it reveals a lot about you; how you manage someone who can’t handle themselves and their temper. However, a partner’s fit of rage doesn’t warrant you to get even with a counter left hook, or a wrath of flying ceramic plates. No. Smashing of smartphones is also unacceptable. Bottom-line, don’t get aggressive; get OUT of it. Easier said than done, but still, a relationship shouldn’t jeopardize your wellbeing and turn your life into a UFC match or a throwing/ tossing contest of sorts. Scars may remain, it may take a very long time to heal, but you don’t have to live your life as though it were there, simply because you don’t deserve to.

7. The missed connection. You’re hopelessly attracted to them, like a moth to a flame, except you don’t end up in bug ash. You can’t fathom how such beautiful souls can even exist. They’re the ones you feel lost in bliss with; seeing the world through their eyes; and roaming free on the face of the earth in their footsteps. They might not be as mesmerized by you as you are. These tend to be short-lived, but nonetheless, important chapters in your life because it allows you to experience the brevity of such beauty and wonder what could possibly be. You’ll never forget these people.

8. The one that’s into you, but you’re not. Pretty much self-explanatory.

9. The “right” one (or the one that makes things right). Although you may not have same interests, you share similar values, and the same zest for life. They’re the ones that catch you when you fall, whom you hold on to when they’re weak. The relationship may not be all sparklers and macaroons, but that’s because love has blossomed into something more; the intertwining of two souls leading to an intertwining of two lives. Your proclamations of love for one another have manifest into something more tangible; there is a fair share of bills, responsibilities, and clearing out the trash to be handled. You accept each other’s imperfections, and share each other’s vulnerabilities, learning and growing along through life’s lessons. The right one is an extension of you, and often the one you marry, sharing the same dream of having the house with white picket fence, two dogs, and a bunch of kids with, or something along those lines. You get the picture.

Horoscope.com’s 2014 General Horoscopes Air, Fire, Earth, Water Summaries of 2014

To any people who have taken a look in this blog, this is only a dash of my obsession for Astrology, but horoscopes are usually fun and interesting until stuff actually comes true… Don’t expect it though or you will be just disappointed that it didn’t happen!


2014: Lessons To Learn

2014… Numerologically, it reduces to seven - the number of the thinker and the seeker. Astrologically, it translates the same way. Thinking and seeking, combined, will be part of your goal this year. But just how differs for each sign.

Some may be quietly exploring cyberspace in the confines of their own home. Others may go out and about, socially expanding their horizons. In either instance, one skill is emphasized above all others: communication.

While we think of communication strictly as sharing information by talking, writing, or body language, we forget that sometimes we communicate without any outward expression at all, through actions and even thoughts.          
      
Whether our goals are love-related, career-oriented or just for bettering ourselves, stronger and smoother communications remain essential throughout 2014 and into 2015.

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For Fire Signs (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius), 2014 presents any number of surprises that will keep you on your toes. Uranus’s presence in Aries means that you may be zinged every now and again with a revelation that makes you deeply reflective.

The year, as a result, follows a back-and-forth pattern of introspectiveness and action. One moment you may be out and about, full of motion and excitement. The next, you’re touching base with people you love to gain “brain fuel” for the next big project. And then, out of nowhere… something else comes along that keeps you and your loved ones talking for hours! The things you learn and share thus continue to enrich your life in unpredictable ways.

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The Earth Signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) year has an organic flow. Instead of the hurly-burly of throwing yourself into tricky situations, the art of effective communication will grow within you like a seed in the Earth. Though outside stimuli still have an effect, ideas have time to gestate slowly, growing almost of their own accord.

As a result, you gain an aura of “quiet wisdom.” Even when you feel like isolating yourself from the outside world, you’re still praised for the well-nourished concepts you bring to the table when you’re ready. Pluto’s year-long position in Capricorn charges your words and ideas with a natural, productive effectiveness… Whatever you have to offer, it’ll be the right thing at the right time.

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For Air Signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius), communication is more constructive. Talking and listening become like girders on a skyscraper - they’re components of a larger and more important objective. You may not be stopping to smell the roses much this year, but you will remember how the roses smell anyway!

In the meantime, you’ll be gaining the satisfaction of watching your personal goals achieved little by little. Your vision of the future you’re trying to create will help inspire others with their own aims. There may still be the occasional hesitation, but the overall motion will be forward, propelled by the connections you make with friends and strangers alike.

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Water Signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces) have two beneficial planets taking up residence within them. Jupiter is in Cancer at the beginning of the year, and Neptune is positioned in cozy Pisces. Put them together, and they spell an abundance of expression. So much to say, so much to hear, so much to do, and so little time to do it in! With every word you give, you receive just as much in return.

Unlike the Fire or Earth signs, there may not be much time to “process” this information. Back and forth it goes, but it doesn’t seem there’s ever enough time to let it sink in! The good part is that with so much going on, you gain more knowledge even if you don’t feel like anything’s changed! You’re gaining the skill to think on your feet and act wisely even while you’re in constant motion.

So if you’ve taken it for granted before this year, communication will become your key to unlock doors you’d thought were sealed up for good!

Hello~ Welcome to Justjuwess’ Public Blog!

Hello Tumblr! This will be my personal public blog page which will be featured also on blogspot. Currently, I am uncertain which blog type appeals to me more since I have first started blogging back in high-school with blogger and is much more comfortable in my opinion… However all my friends in my age group / generation now use tumblr~…

Without further adieu, a brief introduction about myself to anyone my name is Julius! A guy who is born and raised in Scarborough, Canada! I have many hobbies and interests that I have came and gone with and even returned to some! This blog will feature some of the many things I like to do on my spare time other than gaming. Although if at one point I would ever be able to make a living off any of these hobbies and interests I would definitely pursue into them! 

From a very long time ago I used to write poetry, dance, play guitar, sing, graphic design, gamer, and many other things i can’t remember at the moment. To this day I am trying new things while bringing back old things into my life!  Although as each day comes and goes I will definitely display as much as I can on this blog as well as my tumblr! To me if anyone wants to venture into my life this would be pieces and parts of it! 

I hope you visit often! And I hope you enjoy my first public blog!

P.S. Sorry if there is no well thought-out background and pictures; this will come as I have more time!